Unicorn

Single Woman in the lifestyle. They're called unicorns as they are rare and mystical ✨

Bull

Single guy in the lifestyle. This term is slowly fading away and being replaced with 'Single Guy'

Vanilla

A term used for people who aren't in the lifestyle. "I went out with my Vanilla friend for drinks"

MFM / FMF

Male, Female, Male (MFM)

Female, Male, Female (FMF

The more letters the more people!

Soft Swap

Soft swapping can mean many things, but typically it's playing with your own partner and maybe a little something with the other.

Full Swap

You guessed it, a full swap means you swap partners fully. Remember, it's what your comfortable with and you set the rules.

Tips for Single Guys

Learn the basics to become a swingle guy in the lifestyle.

Single Women Tips

How to be safe online and during a meet.

Tips for Couples

Hot tips for couples to get the best out of the lifestyle.

Lifestyle Etiquette

Learn the etiquette of the lifestyle right here.

Swinging is for older people.

There is now, more than ever, younger swingers in the lifestyle. It is becoming widely more accepted to have threesomes, foursomes, orgies, and polyamorous relationships.

I feel that the younger generation are more open and excepting to experiencing new things. I have seen with my eyes Swingers aged from 20 to 80, from all different backgrounds.

No matter how old you are, there is something very similar to your age range.

Swinging is for unhappy marriages

It is purely for extra fun, excitement and kicks. You find most swinging couples are more stable and have more trust within their relationship, and are concrete.

You also find most of the time that one of the party members is bicurious or bisexual and wants to explore that side.

I always imagine Swinging as an adrenaline-filled hobby. Some people might like to skydive others may want to go paint balling. For me, sharing another couple with my husband is my excitement.

You can't be a parent and be involved in swinging.

We are parents to two children and find time to swing on date nights while we are away on hotel breaks and during the day while the kids are at school when we have a day off together through the week.

Most swingers I've met have children, and it doesn't stop you from getting into the lifestyle. 

STDs are common in the swinging community.

Swingers are savvy when it comes to protection. I believe swingers are probably Durex's number one customer! Everyone has the same mindset when using condoms – it's better to be safe than sorry and always leave a meet with peace of mind.

The other question is, do swingers contract STD's and the answer is yes. There are swingers out there who do not use condoms and don't protect themselves. What you do in your bedroom is your own choice, and if you're happy, that's okay, but I will always use condoms. 

Swingers will sleep with anyone.

This is not the case. Like everyone else, there has to be that initial attraction and chemistry. Just because you like threesomes, foursomes, orgies, and kinks doesn't mean you will sleep with anyone.

I have had single men message me on swinging sites, constantly asking why I won't meet them. 

It's a simple answer; I am not attracted to them. 

Swinging is a way to cheat on your partner.

Being non-monogamous is not cheating as it's consensual from both sides of the relationship.The key is open and honest communication between the couple, so each knows what's going on. 

If your partner isn't 100% entirely into the idea, then don't do it. It will be brought back up later down the line and can have a downbeat ending.