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How to get started in Swinging - The Basics

What is Swinging? 

Swinging is where a couple seeks out another couple or single person (or two) to enter into sexual relations or swap partners. This could happen via an ad or a designated party or a meet-up—or like any other sexual encounter, casually and randomly.

Swingers permit their partners to have sex or “play” with other people, sometimes joining in or just watching from the sidelines. Couples who embark on this lifestyle often have rules that set a level of trust, like being with others, together, sexually, but being only with each other emotionally.


How to get started in Swinging...

Talk to your partner! 

Having a discussion with your partner about swinging is the first step to finding out if the choice is right for the both of you. It’s important that you both are on the same page, and that you aren’t rushing into it without understanding your own personal boundaries regarding intimacy first. 

One way to test the waters is to watch porn together and study each other’s reactions. Find our what you like, what’s boring, what’s a turn off. Are you jealous of what he likes or finds attractive? Are you turned on by being turned on by the same things? This is a starting point for conversation.

Do your research.

Swinging can mean different things to different people.

This research could mean visiting swinging forums or engaging in conversations with other swingers first to get an idea of expectations and possible issues. Often, people mistake swinging to be the same as polyamory, where a single party practices emotional and sexual relations with multiple people other than their significant other. Swinging is a joint effort, where the couple goes into swinging together, whether simply for pleasure or to improve their relationship. 

To some, knowing that both parties are going into it as a pair, as equals, makes swinging seem more appealing and approachable. 

Set up some rules and boundaries.

Know your boundaries, negotiate your boundaries beforehand, and also know that boundaries can be renegotiated depending on feelings. 

Rules are important to feel safe in any new and strange environment, and if respected, rules can also strengthen trust between couples. The boundaries you make with your partner can always be shifted based on comfort levels. Ultimately, it comes down to what you two, as a couple, want out of swinging—and if the reality of swinging is giving you what you want. 

Join a Swingers Website.

 Once you have discussed your rules and boundaries, it's time to take the next step. 

I use FabSwingers, This was the first site me and my husband joined after it was recommended by one of his friends. It has everything you possibly need and doesn't give you that terrible pop-up message asking for money to use the full site. 

WARNING! When you sign up you will be shocked about how many swingers are around your area. It's more popular than you think. Have a good look around and don't be shy to copy other people's bio's and tailor them to your own. 

Do you want to see what it's like?

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