Most couples who are looking to get into the lifestyle ask themselves. "What if I get jealous." It's is a normal thought to have that has run through all of our minds. Read through my guide and see how you can overcome this.
What is Jealousy?
According to GoodTherapy, Jealousy is an often overwhelming feeling of insecurity about a potential loss or inequity in the distribution of resources. The term is also used to describe a feeling associated with being possessive of another person, such as a partner or friend.
You think you might get jealous.
The truth is if you're truly ready to enter the lifestyle of swinging, jealousy doesn't happen. Instead, it's just a thought that runs through your mind due to insecurities you may have about your relationship.
It can be a telltale sign that you might not be ready to jump into someone else's bed with your partner or by yourself.
Why are you feeling like this?
When you're thinking about getting into the lifestyle, you have to ask yourself these questions before moving forward.
Do my partner, and I have clear, open and honest lines of communication?
Is there something I need to get off my chest that I don't feel comfortable with them?
Insecurities are a significant factor in this, and that's okay.
You're probably thinking, 'What if my partner meets someone else and leaves me' or 'What if they experience better sex than I can ever give them.'
The truth is your partner is your rock. They have vowed to be there for you during the good and bad times of your relationship/marriage. A little lust from someone else will not change this.
If you know you are concrete with your partner, no one is packing their bags and leaving over something so minor. Then you're good to go.
Jealousy is just a pre-thought of what you think you might feel. You can read more about what it feels like when you're on a play date with someone else.
There is nothing to worry about getting started in the lifestyle if you and your partner have had the proper conversation and set your rules and boundaries.
Most importantly, reassuring each other that it is just sex for fun and excitement.